How To Truly Help a Negative Person

Do you know someone that ALWAYS is the victim? No matter what, they have it worse, they have been hurt worse, they just have all the bad things happen.  Now for every bad thing that happens to them in most cases at least 3 or 4 good things happen.  They have food and shelter, they have people who love them, but they just can't get past the negative.


Negative thoughts will make you sick, to be honest they can almost kill you!  They will destroy your friendships, your family, they will make it impossible to work with others.  Yet all the while the negative person sees this as someone else's fault.  Because someone must be at fault.  There cannot be a 'it just happened', someone must take the blame and it will be the person that they choose.


Ok, I asked earlier if you knew someone like that.  So for the first time in my blog writing, I'm assigning homework!  Now I know everyone LOVES homework, yeah right.  But this homework is good for you and it can be good for them.  I want you to write down the name of that person(s) somewhere that you will see it on a daily basis.  Now every time you see it, pray for them!  I mean really pray, pray that they will see God in the sunset and His works in the falling rain.  Pray that God will release them from the pain that is causing them to be negative.


Because it is almost always pain that causes negativity.  Hurting people hurt people, it's a proven fact.  If you see this person, smile at them even if they do not smile back.  If you see them do something that can be encouraged, do it!  Find something that they did well and tell them you appreciate it.  Now I warn you, this may be met with suspicion or even hostility.  If they have been negative for a while, they have grown used to that world.  And they may have never seen anyone willing to cross the barrier they have built around themselves. 


But 'hide and watch', it may take time but if you continue to pray and you continue to smile, somewhere along the way, you are going to see a crack in that barrier.  'Why would I do that you may ask?'  Well I'm glad you asked, you do it because Jesus said to love others as we love ourselves.  In praying for someone that is negative or bitter you see two things happen, you begin to care more deeply about them and what is causing them to hurt and you begin to crack the barrier so you can plant a seed of hope.  You also may recognize some of the walls you have put up yourself and how others may view them as you spend that time praying for God to bring their barriers down.  God can use your care and concern for others to help you to grow. God does amazing things when we let Him!
If you agree to do this, let me know.  You can message me on Facebook or comment here, if you know my number you can text me.  But between now and Christmas I want to see if others are willing to do this.  I want to hear if you see God do something, it may not be immediately but plant, water and wait!